One of the things I am passionate about is reducing the numbers of times it takes someone to leave an abusive relationship. Every time someone returns the negative impact grows. Understanding the complexities of domestic violence is difficult but when you are inside of an abusive relationship it is even harder.

This week I am sharing an article from Two Good Co about why it takes seven time to leave.

‘Why does it take?  Seven times

We’ve heard it takes on average seven attempts to leave a domestic violence relationship (i). The majority of domestic violence murders committed by abusive partners occur after an attempt to terminate the abusive relationship (ii).

Could you image the social impact we would create if we were able to reduce the average number of attempts to just six?

There’s a myriad of reasons why someone returns to an abusive partner. To try and solve this problem we started researching. Martin et al. (2000) recognised that difficulties in relocation, legal issues, sharing child custody, termination of the emotional connection with the abuser, and disrupted social networks, placed the victim at higher risk of returning to the relationship.

Patzel (2006) reported that fear of being alone and a lack of support from family and friends reduced a woman’s ability to leave the relationship. Griffith et al. (2016) states the number one reason for returning to a domestic violence abuser is emotional attachment.

There are many factors we cannot influence, but there are also factors we absolutely can!

Chang et al. (2010) found that one of the most important factors that led women to successfully leave their abusers was the realisation they had access to resources and support from others.

Our SOLUTION is to increase the resources offered to domestic violence survivors through our EMPLOYMENT, EMPOWERMENT and community ENGAGEMENT programs. We have lots of work to do, but after some extensive research and discussion with service providers, we are up for the challenge.’ …Article supplied by Two Good Co

Support and resources are essential and with community projects like Two Good along with Government and employers we really can help reduce the seven, and in doing so reduce the risk to the victims of domestic violence and their children.

Awareness and action change lives for the better which is why I support Two Good Co. If you would like to support them too contact them at:

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ii: (Pagelow, 1984; Walker & Meloy, 1998).

Lisa McAdams

About Lisa: Lisa was raised by narcissistic parents; narcissism was her first language. Lisa understands the behaviours, language and how narcissists manipulate communication and the people in their world.

Lisa has a passion for communication and believes that once people learn the how-to and feel safe, they can become Courageous Communicators.

Lisa now teaches others to recognise these manipulative behaviours and language of narcissistic bullies so they can separate themselves from the narcissist's projected opinion and regain their confidence and create the future they planned.

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