Like many of you I have worked hard this year and i am looking forward to the holiday season. I have had my share of success and my share my failures in 2017. This has been a year when my health has been challenging. I couldn’t train because of injury, exercise is my happy place so I found it difficult.
When I look back on 2017 I see it as a good year with some challenges a long the way
Running a business is stressful and often feels like a 24/7 job. I am not moaning I love it but I’d be lying if I said it was easy. And for me it involves sharing private person trauma usually on a daily basis. In webinars, in articles, in workshops and often as a Keynote in front of hundreds of people.
Sometimes I share stories for different things two or three times a day. By the end of the year I am ready for some well-earned downtime. Sometime to take a holiday, to relax with the people close to me. Relaxing, laughing and spending time doing the things that make me happy. Like walks on the beach, splashing in the pool. I am fortunate I get to do this; because my work takes its toll and finding time to relax is important.
As the song says ‘Simply having a wonderful Christmas time’
For a long time in my life I did not get to have a wonderful Christmas, often it wasn’t even safe. I would get to the end of the year and instead of feeling a sense of contentment about having sometime away from work I would get a knot of anxiety in my stomach. A feeling of anguish it is hard to describe, knowing something bad is about to happen and there is nothing you can do to stop it.
As much as my business is hard work and is draining on my psyche it does not even begin to compare to living with abuse. One day under that pressure is higher than a years worth now. On top of the abuse I suffered at home I still had my career and work to do everyday.
It was exhausting, I was exhausted to the point I could not work out how to change my life. For me, I ended losing everything including my home. Leaving with only:
- Two bags of clothes
- One bag of toys
- and thousands of dollars of debt.
I am one of the lucky ones because I am survived and so did those dearest to me.
This is my why, if I can share my story, my training and my knowledge and help employers assist their employees to have a brighter, saver, more financially secure future then I am proud to do what I do.
So I would like everyone to take a moment to think about colleagues who may be living with abuse and how as we all relax and enjoy the festivities. They face their scariest and most challenging time of year.
I wish everyone a safe holiday season filled with at least some joy.
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